When you think someone is your friend, but . . .

What do you do when you think someone is your friend, but they kinda talk bad about other people pretty often? Especially if some of those other people think they are friends with the person, I know I wonder what that person says about me, when I am not there.

What do you do if you think someone like that is your friend, but you start hearing rumors to the contrary? Do you accept that a person like that just talks trash about their friends, but still likes their friends? Do you write the person off? Do you confront them? What if you confront them and they tell you they are all good with you, but you hear rumors to the contrary?

I just don’t know how to parse out that sort of behavior, when a supposed friend treats me or others that way. I don’t know what to make of it.